Perhaps there is no need to ‘let go’.

I am sure you have seen advice and inspiration, suggesting the need to “let go” of emotions that you have carried around with you for a long time that no longer serve you. Emotions that bear down on you like a brick loaded back pack. You know which ones I am talking about. Anger, resentment, hurt to name a few.

I have posted many quotes and blogs suggesting exactly this and I do agree with this. Carrying these toxic emotions as Nelson Mandala suggests “is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

So if you can genuinely ‘let it go”, your mind, body physiology will be better for it.

However for some this is not easy to do and getting to that place of genuine release is a difficult road. How do I know, because I have been there.

Emotions have a chemical response in the body which are released via the specific neurotransmitter’s that correspond to them. From a biochemical perspective these neurotransmitters and in turn hormones can become addictive and serve certain behavioural patterns and limiting beliefs that many also find hard to let go.

Let’s face it, whenever you let go of anything it leaves a void, a space which not many of us feel comfortable to sit with because sometimes the neural pathway’s that have been formed in connection to these emotions are so deep and engrained its difficult without the correct support to ‘let go’.

However what if every time you felt resentment for someone, something or a specific situation we let love in. What if instead of shutting down the heart and locking the hurt into our body which is toxic and poison to us, we open the heart, change our perspective and ask yourself ‘how has the experience, person or thing helped me grow to be the person I am today?”


What if opening the heart dissolved the toxic emotion and filled that space with pure unconditional love. There would honestly be no need to ‘let go’ of anything!

How do you open your heart? I hear you ask? Allow me to share a story with you.

Recently I did some personal work with a man called Dr Nima Rahmany who is the founder of the ‘Overview Method’. He helped me do just that. Dissolve years of resentment towards a person that hurt me deeply around the time I was grieving my son.

I had many different resentments around this situation. This person should have been more sensitive. This person should have been more supportive. This person should not have behaved that way. Loads of should and should not’s, that were keeping me stuck, angry and resentful.

Then a miracle happened. I changed my perspective and shifted to a place where I had nothing but gratitude towards the situation and how it assisted me to become the person I am today (which is a person sharing her gifts and ‘superpowers’ as he calls it) . This process allowed me to open my heart. I became grateful for the lessons, grateful for the experience and realised that without these events, I would not be serving you. Every event and scenario that I once perceived out of the lenses of resentment and anger evolved in perfect order. All is as it should be. Once I opened my heart to the gifts this situation offered me, I could no longer hold resentment to this person. I was free.

The process was profoundly heart opening and from this beautiful space, I was able to write a letter of gratitude to this person. The process of writing this letter was extremely therapeutic.

Did I send it? I decided not to send it because I felt it was for my therapeutic benefit however, I also believe that with an open heart the energy itself will allow the relationship to shift if needs be. Such is the beauty of energy.

Why am I sharing this? I am sharing this because I want you to know that there is hope. If you are carrying around emotions that are toxic such as resentment and anger there is a way. And when you ‘let in’  love rather than try and ‘let go’ of emotion, you are able to genuinely dissolve it.

So with that I leave you with this beautiful quote from Marianne Williamson ~

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.”




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